We often see first hand when we are kids how cruel humanity is. We can either be bullied, be the bully, or see it happening with others. This is especially true in elementary school where it would appear the ego is in full swing. But what of the "innocence" of children. Do we begin our early lives with naturally gravitating towards being kind and peaceful, or are we more inclined to separate ourselves from others becoming taunting, vengeful little beasts?
Is this what the "Fall" of humanity is symbolic of? Are we born with an "evilness," with our "evil" side being real and expressed in the world through our choices and behaviours? Or, are we inherently "good" but become "evil" because of social conditioning and pressure? Survival of the fittest coded into our behaviours, drives, desires? From my experience, it would be noted that those who were bullied were the ones who were seemingly peaceful (appearing weaker?) and not interested in aggression but later get pulled in to becoming aggressive themselves to get back that sense of power which has been lost to those higher up. Are we naturally inclined to create a hierarchy with the aggressors preying on the weaker?
Here's an article on children experiencing levels pressure in an all so common form of bullying.
Recess was Allie Long's favourite part of the day until the second grade, when some of her friends on the playground pressured her to join their whisper campaign against a classmate.
Allie shrugged. She didn't want to hear their rumour or help spread it around. In an instant, her best friends since kindergarten became her tormenters.
"They started taunting and teasing her," said Allie's mom, Trudy Ludwig. "She was on this play structure and they blocked all of the exits and wouldn't let her off. They started moving closer to her. Allie just freaked out. One of the girls realized it was getting out of hand and got a teacher to help."
Bullying among adolescents has captured the attention of researchers, educators and parents alarmed by a parade of mean girls and cyber-bullies caught in mid-punch on viral video. But such aggression may not just happen in a whirl of adolescent hormones, some in the growing anti-bully movement argue.
Some older bullies were "Barbie brats" first.
In Allie's case, the kids were talked to, but things weren't the same at her Beaverton, Ore., school.
"My daughter cried herself to sleep on and off for several months," Ludwig said. "She had stomachaches. The phone stopped ringing. No playdates. No invitations to sleepovers."
They were just seven years old.
Meline Kevorkian, a Fort Lauderdale, Fla., researcher and public speaker on bullying, surveyed 167 educators last year and 25 per cent indicated bullying occurs most in elementary schools. Research also indicates that three-quarters of eight-to 11-year-olds report they've been bullied, with more than half identifying it as a "big" problem, Kevorkian said.
"It could be you wear the wrong shoes or the wrong socks. If you didn't go to the Hannah Montana concert. Your lunch smells. You can't wear certain bows in your hair," she said. "It's not that the victims are all going to grow up and shoot kids in their high school, but it's the message that making fun of people will make you popular."
Rumour-spreading, teasing, exclusive clubs, secrets. What social scientists describe as "relational aggression" is often unjustly written off among younger kids as routine rites of passage not worthy of extra hands-on attention, Kevorkian and other anti-bully experts said.
Parents of targeted children agreed.
"Everybody seems under the impression that their child is well behaved in all settings," said Lisa Borre, whose nine-year-old son, Franklin, loves sports but is small for his age and often struggles for equal time during playground baseball and basketball games in Libertyville, Ill.
"Nobody is willing to believe their children might behave differently on the playground," she said. "I just sort of felt like at this age the kids would still be gentler, kinder, would still behave more like little children. It's almost like a smaller version of an adult world that he's dealing with."
Ludwig, who was inspired by her now 14-year-old daughter's experience to write four picture books on bullying, said girls in particular often connect by sharing secrets that can later be turned into weapons. Such verbal abuse and social manipulation, which Ludwig and other experts say is on the rise in boys, often flies under the radar of harried parents, teachers or baby sitters.
"It's evident in preschool. 'If you don't let me play with that toy I won't invite you to my birthday party,"' Ludwig said. "Intentional exclusion is bullying. Giving the silent treatment is bullying. It's not a part of growing up. It's not something kids can work out themselves. It's not normal conflict. We've normalized this abnormal behaviour in our society."
Little research has tracked bullying among the very young, but the topic is beginning to gain momentum. Intervention programs, including fifth-graders tapped as peer mediators on playgrounds, began popping up a few years ago in elementary schools, but the institutional response to bullying is often piecemeal or inconsistent, advocates said.
Michele Borba, who writes and speaks frequently on bullying, felt so intensely about such incidents among the very young that she helped develop a "Caring Corners" dollhouse due on the market later this year, designed to talk to kids about positive behaviour.
"Little kids are born to be kindhearted," Borba said. "They've got that natural empathy, but unless you nurture it, it lies dormant."
Nurturing empathy might be hard for competitive parents who scream at six-year-olds during soccer games, or buy Coach bags for their girls, then wonder out loud who's carrying the knockoffs, said Barbara Kimmel, the mother of two boys, ages 11 and 14, in Morris County, N.J.
Technology makes it even harder.
"The cyber-bullying starts at 10 or 11 now," she said. "It's pervasive."
To psychologist Jennifer Hartstein, who works with troubled adolescents in New York City, signs are evident even earlier. She cites a recent party she attended for a six-year-old that featured a pinata.
"It was, like, who can you step on and push fast enough to get the candy," she said. "It's this 'me generation' of I have to get what's mine. It's the precursor to more serious bullying. You really have to catch it as it happens at younger ages."
The Meaning of Life is to Eat the Apple - Me
Wisdom comes from asking questions
Nothing really matters, love is all we need. - Madonna
I predict the weather will be unpredictable this year - Sylvia Browne
An eye for an eye only ends up making the whole world blind - Gandhi
If it doesn't make sense, it's usually not true. - Judge Judy
As child grows, it unwillingly integrates into one hierarchic model of consumeristic and materialistic society due to severe mental traumatic experiences caused by other people who endlessly project their egoistic delusional prisons on others. Every child, especially in state of puberty, begins its transformation in zombified creature ready to take the role of simple cattle-minded citizen of the matrix. These traumas I mentioned, are actually a normal psychological states when one forget his own origin. As we grow older these prisons without walls grow more secure, in other words we give ourselves to matrix more and more, till we are just a puppets of the oligarchic social system.
The children are the most tragic victims of the matrix. They began by radiating inner rays of equilibrium, but as time passes they fall like Heavenly Sophia.
In my case, I was always too different and too introverted to easily fall under external psychological influences.
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