Death and Dying

[Celtaur]

Today someone I knew has passed away. Death really does put into perspective our lives, and that ultimately our journeys are ours alone, yet on our journeys we are not alone.

It is very sad. I have been saying for the past few weeks that you never know when life is going to change drastically. It is such a strange feeling when someone we know passes away. It is a rush of memories, and a feeling of emptiness and a sense of deep wonder. Thoughts of death and dying come up, and a strangeness that, the person you once knew who was once joyously living in the world, has exited and has no more breaths to take, no more laughs to share, no more... It has a sense of strangeness about it that can not be explained in the way that it is experienced. Only through the experience of the feeling can we know it, and we all experience that sameness. The same experience happens to us all, we all experience the death of others, and we all die. We are so very connected, so much the same inside.

It is a great loss when someone we knew and shared life with has passed on. The world has lost someone again. So many people lose someone they knew, cared about and loved every day. We all experience this. We are all so connected in this way.

[Cantesutawin]

Having lost my beloved brother almost two years ago I know all too well the pain that comes with loss. One of the things I try to keep in mind is that I have to focus on the good, on what he left behind and the wonderful memories I have of him.

I keep asking myself when will the pain stop, when will I get over it? I have no answer for that, I do know that slowly day by day the constant ache has eased. However, I have accepted that I don't think I will ever totally get over it, I will never stop missing my brother, and there will likely always be times when I feel like my heart has been ripped out, I will be reminded of the profound loss.

I also know that someday I will see him again. Once again we will be laughing and even now when I have a dumb accident (I'm a klutz) I can hear him laughing with me. I can hear his voice reminding me that I am a strong woman and that his family needs me.

I've also found that remember him as he was, a good man, someone who loved to laugh, someone who was always willing to help someone, and most of all someone who loved me I am reminded that as long as I remember him in my heart I will never be alone.

[FairyHealer]

So many people view death with sadness. Instead of celebrating the life and the love of this persons ~ we grieve. We grieve for ourselves, for our loss, for our sadness and for the sadness of others who also loved this person. We have all lost loved ones, and one day we will "die" and leave our loved ones "behind". What most people don’t understand, is that Death
is simply the completion of this life’s incarnation. When the lessons are done ~ we move on and go Home.

We are eternal creatures. Beings of Energy and energy doesn’t die it simply manifests itself in another form. We will see our loved ones again, when our journey here on Earth is done. And before that happens they will visit with us many times. We’ve all learned to be mournful of someone’s passing, if we think about it…is that what we want when our time comes? Hmmm?

Life is about change, we are born, we grow, we mature, we age, and we die…. It is the cycle of life.

Peace & Love....the FairyHealer....+*+*+*+

[Cantesutawin]

Further to my last post, I forgot one thing. My people believe that the north is where the spirits who have gone before go to. It is guarded by the great white bear and the northern lights are the spirits dancing and watching over us. When I start to miss my brother too much I'd go outside at night and offer tobacco and food to his spirit.

In losing my brother I learned one great lesson, life is to be lived. My brother is the kind of man who did more living in his 35 years than most do in twice that time. He had such a love of life, and the best gift I can give to guarantee that his spirit lives on is to live and rejoice every day.

[Celtaur]

So many people view death with sadness. Instead of celebrating the life and the love of this persons ~ we grieve. We grieve for ourselves, for our loss, for our sadness and for the sadness of others who also loved this person. We have all lost loved ones, and one day we will "die" and leave our loved ones "behind". What most people don’t understand, is that Death
is simply the completion of this life’s incarnation. When the lessons are done ~ we move on and go Home.

We are eternal creatures. Beings of Energy and energy doesn’t die it simply manifests itself in another form. We will see our loved ones again, when our journey here on Earth is done. And before that happens they will visit with us many times. We’ve all learned to be mournful of someone’s passing, if we think about it…is that what we want when our time comes? Hmmm?

Life is about change, we are born, we grow, we mature, we age, and we die…. It is the cycle of life.

Peace & Love....the FairyHealer....+*+*+*+

Hi Fairyhealer - Thank you for your kind words and gentle reminders. I understand this, and is exactly the kind of perception of things that I say, and I think many say, when it happens to others that we have not had much direct experience with. I agree to a large part of this, but I also think that death goes much deeper than this, it goes much deeper than the intellect, it is not as simplistic as reasoning with the mind. When we have connected with someone in this life, we have touched their spirit, we have had a spiritual experience of life together, which is very profound. I think that yes, we can be glad, and happy that this person has been in our lives, and we can celebrate that we have had the opportunity to share this journey with them. But celebration is best when you are celebrating someones life when they are there to celebrate it with you, to see, touch, feel the joy of everyone around them celebrating that they are alive, this is a true celebration.

For me, when someone dies, it is not my self interests, in what I have lost, that causes me to mourn and grieve in large part. It is my compassion for the person who has lost their own life, who has suddenly been cut short of their dreams and hopes, and even more so, for those who have taken their own life, it is their great pain and suffering that they endured in their experience that I mourn. I only wish I could give more comfort and caring to those who need a helping hand, that they don't feel alone, that they don't have to suffer so much pain that they take their own life. This is sorrow, to know someone has suffered. Death is so much deeper than my own personal loss, it is about life, about what this person has experienced, what they have lost. Life is such a powerful experience, and there is so much joy and sorrow in those moments. My heart is a compassionate heart.

I have a broad belief system in spirituality, and when I think of compassion I think of the torture that Jesus went through, the suffering. This is the lesson, to have compassion, to let the heart pour forth it's love to those who are in need, who we see in pain. There is great sorrow in having someone lose who they are, and all that they have loved and been. Death is a very powerful force of change, it is beyond intellectual conditioning, of self interests, it is so broad, it is a deep feeling, a shift of energy.

Yes death is natural, it happens to us all, but there is still such a powerful current of energy loss when someone leaves, when they no longer have their energy to live. It is such a profound journey that we all essentially experience individually, and it is the individual that I have sadness for, for if someone has suffered my heart weeps for them.

Regardless of what we think we know about others, who they are, we never really do know all the depths of people we come across in life. Even the most seemingly joyous people suffer inside from time to time, and sometimes most of the time. We all feel pain. It is my hope that people understand this sameness in all of us, and that we can reach out and give the love and compassion to others that they deserve.

[FairyHealer]

Hugs….
Regardless of anything…Death is hard to deal with.

I agree with much that you wrote. I’ve felt so much of what you wrote as well. Like you said we are all so alike in so many ways. But we are also very different in how we think and what we feel. For some life is a great wonder and every day is a blessing. For others life is nothing but pain and heartache…a living hell. For most of us it’s a mix of good and bad, and we will endure what we have to endure so that we can stay here with "life".

It is my belief that we have all lived many different lives and to me This is just another incarnation. More lessons to learn, in this time and space. I believe that our true reality is in Spirit and not human form…we come into human bodies to experience negativity…. even Jesus. When the lesson are done we go Home. I also believe that we astral travel in our sleep and visit with loved ones. I also believe that they visit us too. They know we will be re-united with them very soon. Life for humans seems to last along time and for some it’s not long enough…but it is only for a short time in the Spirit world even if we lived to be 90.

Life is strange place…some people "think" that death is stranger but to me it is actually "freedom"

Peace & People ….the FairyHealer…+*+*+*+*+